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Social media allows you to share your story with the world. All day, every day, you can share the good, the bad and the ugly with all those you know (and who follow you). This is great. Transparency like this helps you connect with other people and build trust.
You only share the good moments. When you have a successful and profitable day, you share it with everyone. You post pictures of smiles and happiness. You portray a certain lifestyle and outlook, but this isn’t the lifestyle and outlook you always live.
The entrepreneurial rollercoaster is real, and for every up there’s a down — yet we don’t tend to show people the downs. You only let them see what you want them to see, and in return they only show you what they want you to see.
This is the dark side of entrepreneurship, and it often leads to entrepreneur depression because you end up feeling alone and isolated (and that everyone has it “figured out” while you are stuck).
$726,000 in Debt, Depressed and Lonely…
Not long ago, I was $726,000 in debt. As you can imagine, this was a tough period for me. I felt like a failure. I didn’t know where to turn, and it got harder to get out of bed each day.
I isolated myself and continued to share a story of smiles and happiness, despite feeling lonely and worthless. I did because I was embarrassed, and believed I had failed and would never recover…
Don’t Attach Yourself to The Outcome
We tend to define ourselves by the outcome. If we make money and build success, we are successful. Whereas if we lose money and slip into failure, we are a failure.
I was embarrassed by my failure so kept it to myself. I clung to this anchor for dear life, and it’s hard to let go of your anchors until you stop living the lie you created to make yourself feel better.
So long as you build this “picture” where you’re happy, in control and unstoppable, you cannot let go of your anchors. You will continue to define yourself by the outcome, and you will continue to slip into entrepreneur depression each time you hit a rough patch.
It’s a vicious cycle with a simple solution, and one that begins and ends with letting go…
Overcome Entrepreneur Depression By Involving Others
When you next have a ‘down day’, don’t pretend otherwise. Look in the mirror and say, “I’m feeling okay, but I’m not finding all “this”l easy right now. I’m feeling those highs and those lows, and I feel alone and a little scared.”
- Stop only showing the good parts of life.
- Stop telling made-up stories that portray you in a certain light.
- Stop isolating yourself when you feel low.
Involve other people and tell them how you really feel — good or bad. Once you do, you can let go of your anchors because you’re no longer living a lie. You stop associating yourself with the outcome, and those around you begin to see the real you.
“Help Me, Help You”
This is no way to live, and you will never experience freedom so long as you live this way. Be real. Let other people in. Tell them how you feel, and be okay with this. The moment you accept yourself for who you are is the moment you can let go.
And once you let go, your entrepreneur depression will soon become a thing of the past, regardless of the outcome. You’re no longer defined by it, which means you can finally create the impact you’ve always desired…
Here is another great read for overcoming the entrepreneurial depression.